Don't You Forget About Me

by Mhairi McFarlane

These first few minutes of consciousness with a hangover are the worst, like waking up in a field after being thrown from a car crash, only you were the car crash.

The word “loss” had a new meaning, or its meaning became clear: a person who loved me, in a completely unique and irreplaceable way, had vanished and took with him our relationship.

“There are always those worse off than you. Your problems are not invalid as a result, or needing to be measured against an internationally recognized pain scale before we decide if your condition is severe enough to treat.”)

Here’s what life has taught me so far: don’t worry about that thing you’re worrying about. Chances are, it’ll be obliterated by something you didn’t anticipate that’s a million times worse.

“No one else is going to fix you. The only person who can fix you, is you.” So Coldplay lied.

“Sometimes because the people we wanted to care for us, didn’t care for us, we live with a deliberate lack of care for ourselves. A way of getting back at them, through self-neglect.”

Something I’ve learned is people do much worse things to you in the name of love, than they ever do as your enemy.”