They also noticed something else about these coercive controllers: ‘They all think they’re undiscovered geniuses,’ said Gottman. ‘Like, one guy that we studied, who is a Pit Bull; he was sure that he was going to become really famous internationally for his coin collection. That was his claim to fame. All of them had this ethos – “I’m an undiscovered talent, and the world has abused me by not recognising my great talent.” They get the woman to go along with this. They’re on their side, that this person should be a celebrity. In reality, a lot of these guys don’t do very well.’
