At first, Rob kept the piece of paper to himself. ‘And then eventually I thought, oh, I’ll just bring it out casually, you know. But when I brought it out, things got a lot worse. Because then Deb realised what was going on. It’s kind of like the scales fell off our eyes – both of us.’ I ask Deb what it was like for her to see that piece of paper. ‘I remember actually what Rob said to me. He said, “What’s going on in our relationship is domestic violence, and the type of violence that I’m using on you is called emotional abuse, which means I don’t bash you with my fists, I bash you with my
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