Here’s the thing I discovered. When I started stepping out from behind the ‘triathlon!’ toot-a-toot bravado, and showing chinks in my ‘health reasons!’ armour, the People started reacting a lot better. Instead of dismissing me as a ‘health bore’ they started softening up. ‘My body is a temple’ virtuousness turns most people off. They try to topple your smugness, they try to push drinks on you, they don’t relate. ‘I was a nightmare and now I’m trying not to be’ is a much more likeable package. Vulnerability is attractive. It really is. And you’ll find people show you their soft spots, in
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