When your loved one describes to you their position on this or that, you might ask: “Why do you think that?” Or, pushing further, “Do you think there’s anything we’re missing here?” Or, “Is that way of seeing things serving you well?” That last question gets at the central gist—is the attitude or stance actually helping them? Or is it getting in the way? The judgment is theirs to make, but you, too, will get a feel.
