(e)Scapegoat Child: A Guide on how to break out of the Role as the Scapegoat Child in a Narcissistic Family

by Beatrix Rex

The easiest way to control everyone and to keep the facade intact is to create a homegenic environment where individuality is punished. In this way the narcissistic family is quite similar to a cult.

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Nonetheless, some people and especially empaths are well equipped by their very nature, at detecting falsehood. This is what creates the instant tension between a narcissist and an empath. It's a relationship that'll end up in conflict, sooner or later. Empaths are sensitive to emotional vibrations and narcissists find entertainment in this. However, when the empath finally understands what he/she's been subjected to, they'll often desire to confront the narcissist, which can be challenging and risky. The narcissist will do just about anything to keep up their facade. In this specific area narcissists can behave somewhat like a psychopath. The person who challenges a narcissist may ultimately risk paying the price of being portrayed publicly as sick or delusional. I'll touch more on this later in the Chapter Attack Strategy. I've come to learn personally the strategy that narcissists generally use when they

They like to discard your talents and knowledge and abilities because they percieve you and everything you represent as a challenge, which explains why you always to explain yourself to them and protect your ground. Any efforts on your behalf to take part in their intellectual conversation end up in the same way: they attack you personally or take passive aggressive jabs at you.

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If you analyse the narcissist when he/she is trying to attack you, the effect of their words becomes smaller. If you say to yourself 'now he's trying to make me feel small and thats why she's twisting things' then you become busy seing them for what they are instead of becoming busy getting hurt.

Minimising the impact of attacks by a narcissist