“When something big happens,” he repeated firmly, ignoring me, “whatever it is, I understand that a person’s first tendency is to freeze, to go numb and wait for something else, equally big, to come along and cancel out the first thing. Believe me, I understand. And I know that’s what you’re doing. But that’s the mistake, don’t you see? It’s faulty, wishful logic. There is no second thing. At least, not
