Whether you find yourself defensive and combative as fuck, freaking out hardcore, or completely shut off and disassociated, it’s your survival mode that is responding. The problem is when this happens during situations that aren’t actually life threatening emergencies. The amygdala has hijacked your ability to manage the situation in a rational way using the prefrontal cortex. It is not a “Hey, let’s investigate this situation, have rational conversations, and then determine how we want to respond based on what will best benefit us in the long run” kind of thinking. Your amygdala screamed
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