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January 2 - January 3, 2024
‘Take a risk a day – one small or bold stroke that will make you feel great once you’ve done it.’
if we sit around waiting for the day that we feel brave enough to do the things we want to do, we’ll never do anything.
Susan says there are three ‘levels’ to every fear. The first level is the ‘surface story’ – in this case the fact that I hate parking.
‘Level 2 fear’ – which is the deeper ‘ego’ fear of looking like an idiot. Susan writes: ‘Level 2 fears have to do with the inner state of mind, rather than exterior situations. They reflect your sense of self and your ability to handle this world.’
the deepest fear of all, the fear which Susan says is underneath all fears – a fear that you won’t be able to handle the feeling of being an idiot who can’t park. Sus...
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‘You’re not a failure if you don’t make it, you’re a success because you try.’
Every time we avoid doing something it makes us feel weaker, while facing a fear, even if it’s a small one, makes us feel strong, empowered and in control.
Psychologists say that there are two sources to all our fears. The first involves our physical safety – so people are scared of heights, snakes and fire because they can kill us. The second source of fear is of social isolation, which is why we are so scared of looking stupid in front of people or of being rejected.
there are six human needs that drive absolutely everything we do. The first need is for Certainty/Comfort – this is our need to feel in control and secure. The second is the opposite: our need for Variety and Uncertainty. The third need is Significance. We all need to feel important and unique.
Need four is Love and Connection. Need five is Growth – ‘If you’re not growing, you’re dying,’
And the final need is for Contribution – ‘Life’s not about me; it’s about we,’
interpretation of Covey’s Seven Habits: • Habit 1: ‘Be proactive’ We may not be able to control what happens to us but we can control our reaction to it. Stop blaming others, stop being a victim, take responsibility for yourself, your actions, your words and your thoughts. • Habit 2: ‘Begin with the end in mind’ How do you want people to talk about you at the end of your life? Keep that in mind every single day. • Habit 3: ‘Put first things first’ We all get distracted by emails and work dramas, but remember to focus on what is important to us rather than what seems urgent. • Habit 4: ‘Think
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As a general rule, he says, we cannot be in our bodies and in our heads at the same time. So, when your thoughts are racing, he advises that you feel the energy of your body.
Tolle says that at any moment, if we are worrying, we should ask ourselves, ‘Is there a problem right now?’ and ninety-nine per cent of the time there isn’t.
Tolle describes stress as ‘being “here” but wanting to be “there”’. He says that it’s natural for all of us to plan things for the future but that we must never prioritize the future over today. You can set goals and work towards them but you must give the most attention to the step you are taking now, not the end destination.
‘Joy comes to us in moments – ordinary moments. We risk missing out on joy when we get too busy chasing down the extraordinary.’
‘Remember, you have been criticizing yourself for years and it hasn’t worked. Try approving of yourself and see what happens.’
I realized then that you can’t love others when you’re busy hating yourself. It’s just not possible.
