Just as Indigenous students and students of color in my literature classes are somehow expected to be quietly, constantly unsafe and deeply out of their comfort zones just to make sure the white students do not experience a moment’s discomfort, and the white students think everyone is having the same experience they are, if you make it hard for people around you to let you know you have caused harm, you’re going to invoke survival strategies in your friends and colleagues when you think you’re just having a regular hang-out with your friend.30
