The Duties of Parents: Parenting Your Children God's Way

by J.C. Ryle

Love should be the silver thread that runs through all your conduct. Kindness, gentleness, long-suffering, forbearance, patience, and sympathy are the cords by which a child may be led most easily.

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Willingness to enter into childish troubles and a readiness to take part in childish joys are the clues you must follow if you want to find the way to his heart.

Love is one grand secret of successful training. Anger and harshness may frighten, but they will not persuade the child that you are right. If he often sees you lose your temper, you will soon cease to have his respect.

Fear puts an end to openness; fear leads to secrecy; fear sows the seed of much hypocrisy and leads to many lies.