Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay: A Step-by-Step Guide to Help You Decide Whether to Stay In or Get Out of Your Relationship

by Mira Kirshenbaum

Do you feel willing to give your partner more than you’re giving already, and are you willing to do this the way things are between you now, without any expectation of being paid back?

“When the satisfaction or the security of another person becomes as significant to one as is one’s own satisfaction or security, then the state of love exists.”

When the overall, basic quality of your life is at stake, you need to feel you can give yourself permission to choose the life that feels good to you over the life that doesn’t.

Somehow, somewhere, when you look deep in your partner’s eyes you’ve got to be able to see yourself.

You need to feel you can give yourself permission to not be with someone who in every way feels like a Martian to you.

If you can’t find your way back to forgiveness, you can’t find your way back to each other.