But for EI parents, their emotional self-regulation didn’t fully develop as they grew up. Unable to modulate their own emotions and disappointments, they still expect others to make them feel better immediately by knowing just how they want to be treated. If they aren’t made the priority, they threaten to fall apart. Like little children, they need a lot of attention, compliance, and positive feedback to keep them stable. Unlike children, however, they don’t grow from the attention. Their early emotional wounds and deprivations promote psychological defenses that keep them stuck in the same
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