EI parents punish you by withdrawing emotional connection if you express thoughts or feelings they don’t like. The fear of this alienation makes you doubt yourself and creates uncertainty about your thoughts and feelings. Once you are taught to doubt yourself, you start looking to others for direction, trusting other people’s perspective over your own. Instead of knowing what you really think and feel, you become preoccupied with just being accepted. Ambivalence undermines your confidence, and you lose contact with your gut feelings and intuitions. You realize that self-doubt brings parental
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