If they refuse this, they are promoting the greatest distortion of all: that you don’t matter as much as they do. Fortunately, you don’t have to accept this offer of a skewed, one-sided relationship. You are under no obligation to put another adult’s needs ahead of your own. Explain that you don’t proceed with anything without thinking about it, and let them know you’d be happy to talk later if they’d be willing to take your needs into consideration too.
