A few days later, Sammy’s older brother Rick paused in the middle of a game of Trouble to tell me something I’ve never forgotten. “You know what ‘gay’ and ‘fag’ really mean, right?” he said. “Obviously, they mean ‘lame’ and ‘gross,’ but they also mean a boy who likes other boys the way a boy is supposed to like girls. So that’s why they mean ‘lame’ and ‘gross.’”

