The end result of being raised underneath a toxic mother is that almost all communication involves a third person. She is in the middle of the web, and she acutely and sensitively monitors all the children over whom she can maintain her self-centered role in the family. She then passes her patterns of abuse onto the others, creating the resentments that prevent them from communicating directly and freely with each other. The result is that the only communication between the children is through the toxic mother, exactly the way she wants it, even though she complains that she’s so sad her
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