When we try and explain this craziness to others, people say, “But she’s your mother!” Why do people say this? Do they not realize that it only serves to make us feel crazier and more alone? Children of toxic mothers get discounted twice: first by their unloving mother, and then by the clueless people who invalidate the experience we have of her. These others invalidate us by saying, “Well, I am sure she had a good reason” or “You don’t mean that … of course you love your mother” or “Of course your mother loves you.” Such people truly haven’t a clue about the reality we live in.
