Our toxic members feed off watching us feel confused, angry, and frustrated as we try and reason with them. This is exactly the kind of attention and emotional reaction they seek. They enjoy watching us scramble to understand their abusive behavior and all the work and effort we put forth trying to get them to take responsibility for how they’ve treated us. It’s all of our scrambling that makes them feel. They don’t deeply consider loving us or hating us. They only think about manipulating us. They love pulling us in close and making us feel safe so they can enjoy the thrill of throwing us
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