Toxic family abuse is always two-fold. The first layer of abuse is the original poor treatment by our toxic family members, namely our parents. The second layer is their denial of the ways in which they treat and harm us, irrespective of the evidence as it manifests in our behavior and in our tragically low levels of self-worth.
I have a toxic MIL - when explained that she insulted me for no reason or she did something my husband and I didn’t agree with, she feigns ignorance and says she doesn’t understand English well enough and has said something she didn’t mean- total bullshit but she will always do that to hide her “toxic persona” in front of other people when confronted
