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“I like people who are pretty kind deep down. And also who tell the truth. I like people who show up when they say they’re going to. Oh, and people who don’t think they’re better than everyone else.”
You don’t have to prove what a great mom you are to me. These are wonderful kids, because of you. But you’re quite clearly frazzled all the time, and all kids need to blow off steam. No matter how perfect their mother tries to be, another parent is a good thing
you’re facing down the painful realization that your children need other people in their lives besides you, that soon you’ll be relegated to the sidelines of their adult lives and have no idea who you are anymore.”
when you take positive steps in your life, the universe rewards you by making your path forward easier.
when we are young, it’s hard to choose who to love. When we are older, it becomes an imperative.”
people walk away from their families when they are trying to escape themselves,” she tells me.
we have to have compassion, because they may lose their loved ones, but they’ll never outrun themselves.”
will never waste another sad thought on my marriage again. I will celebrate what we had, our wonderful kids, our happier times. I will help John be the best father he can possibly be, wherever he chooses to live. But I will also date, live my life for real this time, and stop pining for something that wasn’t that great in the first place.
I get this now. I get now that you can love what you have, love your kids and your life and your friends, and still want more. I get that it’s ok to go out and get more—more love, more friendship, more fulfillment—and still be a wonderful mom.
I can be 100 percent a mother and, though it isn’t easy, still be 100 percent myself as well.
It means understanding that to care for my children well, I must never again forget to care for myself.
