The Emotion Code: How to Release Your Trapped Emotions for Abundant Health, Love, and Happiness (Updated and Expanded Edition)

by Bradley Nelson

Part of being in a state of acceptance is constantly forgiving others their trespasses. We may feel justified in holding on to hurt feelings because it seems to punish those who hurt us. In reality, holding on to negative emotions hurts us, not them. They may or may not be aware of how we feel, but the way they feel is entirely up to them. Acceptance is realizing that we have no control over anyone in this way; we can only decide how we want to feel now. Just because you choose to suffer by holding on to the past doesn’t mean they will suffer along with you. And desiring the suffering of another is a low vibrational state that hurts you anyway! I’ve always liked this quote by Lewis Smedes: “To forgive is to set a prisoner free and then discover that the prisoner was you.” So why not set yourself free? Why create more negativity and more damage by feeding your hurt feelings year after year? So much human suffering occurs because we don’t know what we do to one another. If only we could understand that what we do to others, we do to ourselves.