Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness

by Vex King

If you find yourself in a similar position, it’s up to you to show your doubters that you’re doing everything in your power to make your chosen path worthwhile.

If you don’t prove that you’re serious about what you want to do, you can’t expect other people to be serious about it either.

‘Nobody can hurt me without my permission.’

The lonely and bored crave attention

Dip yourself into a pool of self-love and you’ll never drown from other people’s judgements about you.

If you keep trying to satisfy others, you’ll never keep up. In the end, you’ll satisfy neither them nor yourself.

Let your good vibes protect you

Some negative people are allergic to positivity. Be so positive that they can’t stand being near you.

You won’t be important to other people all the time, and that’s why you have to be important to yourself. Learn to enjoy your own company.

Your needs matter, so start meeting them yourself. Don’t rely on others.

When you accept yourself as you are, you put emphasis on your own wellbeing and joy – and you’ll be content with the idea that not everyone will accept you as you are. You’ll know your worth, so you won’t care if others don’t recognize it. In fact, you’ll come to understand why they don’t recognize it: unfortunately, because most people don’t accept themselves, they search for flaws in others.

The size of your jeans doesn’t define you. The colour and shade of your skin doesn’t define you. That number on the scales doesn’t define you. Those marks on your face don’t define you. Those expectations don’t define you. Those opinions don’t define you.

Don’t let socially constructed ideas about beauty lower your self-esteem. There are no rules to beauty. Accept and love yourself as you are. Embrace your flaws and get comfortable in your own skin. Wear your imperfections like they don’t need a season to be fashionable.

Ignore what everyone else is doing. Your life isn’t about everyone else; it’s about you. Instead of focusing on their path, pay attention to your own. That’s where your journey is taking place.

It’s about you. Your competition is you. Outdoing yourself is your daily task, and that’s where your comparison should be directed: on the person you were yesterday.

The truth is that, either way, you’re going to be judged, whether you live life on your own terms or on other people’s.

You can listen to the crowd, or you can listen to your soul and be on your own stage.

They will call you quiet because you’re perfectly happy in silence. They will call you weak because you avoid conflict and drama. They will call you obsessed for being passionate about the things you love.

They will call you rude for not engaging in social pleasantries. They will call you arrogant for having self-respect. They will call you boring for not being extrovert. They will call you wrong for having different beliefs. They will call you shy when you choose not to interact in small talk.

They will call you weird because you choose not to conform to societal trends. They will call you fake for trying your best to remain positive. They will call you a loner because you’re comfortable being on your own. They will call you lost for not following the same route as others.

They will call you a geek for being a knowledge-seeker. They will call you ugly for not looking like celebrities. They will call you dumb for not being an academic. They will call you crazy for thinking differently from others. They will call you cheap for knowing value for money.

They will call you disloyal for distancing yourself from negative people.

Instead of telling yourself that you’re dumb for making a mistake, tell yourself that you’re only human and you’ll do better next time.

You’re only human and you’re allowed to continue with life, regardless of the magnitude of the mistake. Don’t punish yourself for what you’ve done, and instead focus on what you can do better.

Beating yourself up won’t change the situation. It’s what you strive for next that matters most.

‘Whatever the mind of man can conceive and believe, it can achieve.’ NAPOLEON HILL

You can’t move forward with thoughts that hold you back.

‘If they can do it, why can’t I?’ I ended up changing my focus to what could be done, rather than what couldn’t be done.

it’s never too late to change your thoughts and reshape your beliefs to support, rather than hinder, yourself.

Our perception of the world is rooted in our beliefs.

We live our lives based on the beliefs that we’ve acquired through our experiences and accumulation of knowledge. Consequently, we all view the world differently.

Your mentality forms your reality. So the next time someone tells you you’re being unrealistic about your goal and to come back to reality, realize that it’s only their reality that they’re talking about, not yours.

Believing in something is the key to seeing it. If you don’t believe in it, it’s not true to you so it can’t be your reality.

you can’t change a situation, change your perception of it. That’s where your personal power lies. Either be controlled – or be in control.

You’re not your thoughts. You’re the witness of each thought.

the practice of living consciously: unlearning and reconditioning the mind so you can have more freedom to be who you really are.

Your goal isn’t to get rid of negative thoughts; it’s to change your response to them.

You’re only ever one positive thought away from a more desirable outcome.

Escape your mental limitations. Don’t spend your life being imprisoned by a belief system that limits your potential and prevents your dreams from coming true.

Our beliefs are like a lens through which we view life; we see what we convince ourselves is true.

With this realization, I knew that if I could change my beliefs, I could change my life.

What you verbalize will eventually materialize. You have the power to talk aspects of your reality into existence.

If you keep on being told you can’t do something, you’ll believe you can’t.

If you’re unsure about what you want, you’ll end up with a lot of things you’re unsure of.

Setting the right goal is everything. It has to reflect what you deeply desire – not what you think you should want.

You’re the author of your future. Write about what you desire and live your story.

What becomes real in your mind will become real in your life.

When we visualize what we desire, not only do we align ourselves to vibrate on the same frequency as the object of our visualization, but we also influence our subconscious mind in the same way as we do with affirmations.

Don’t worry about how it’s going to happen, otherwise you’ll begin to create limitations. Just be certain about what you want and the entire Universe will rearrange itself for you.

Whatever the path you might be on right now, it’ll support you. It’ll provide you with the signs to get you to where you want to be.