Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness

by Vex King

Stop trying to impress people. Impress yourself. Stretch yourself. Test yourself. Be the best version of you that you can be.

it’s not unjust to let go of those who show no concern for you.

The truth is, you won’t love yourself more if, for example, you lose or gain weight, or undergo cosmetic surgery. You may feel more confident, sure. But true self-love is when you appreciate where you are and who you are, regardless of any transformation you aspire to.

Improving yourself and your life is also self-love, because it means you recognize that you deserve more than settling for mediocrity.

True self-love can be present in anything that adds value to your life, from your diet to your spiritual rituals or the way you interact within your personal relationships. And, of course, a significant aspect of self-love is acceptance: being content with who you are, as you are. As a result, self-love is empowerment and liberation.

An understanding of self-love allows us to find balance between mindset and action. Without balance we’ll regularly stumble, fall and feel lost. When you love yourself, life will begin to love you back.

Self-love is the balance between accepting yourself as you are while knowing you deserve better, and then working towards it.

Not everything I’ve wanted has manifested. This has usually been a blessing in disguise. Too many times I’ve believed that I wanted and needed something, but it was for all the wrong reasons. Over the years, I’ve gained clarity and sighed with relief for not getting what I thought was surely meant for me. Often, I’ve not got what I wanted, only to find I’ve later been blessed with even more.

everything is made up of atoms, and every atom is a little vibration. Therefore, all matter and energy is vibrational by nature.

To receive or perceive the reality you wish to have, you must be in energetic harmony with that which you desire. This means that our thoughts, emotions, words and actions must align with what we want.

Anyone who has accomplished anything great has faced big challenges or failures. But they’re only final if you quit.

You’ll notice that, more often than not, people who spend their time gossiping are the ones who seem to complain or find comfort in misery. If you join them in their habits, you’ll gradually become disillusioned with life, too.

Walk away in silence from anything that doesn’t improve your life. Calmness among chaos is a sign of emotional maturity.

When you’re upset because someone doesn’t like you, it’s your ego operating: you validate your existence based on their approval. When they disapprove of you, you no longer feel good about who you are.

You must make sure that you don’t involuntarily take part in the internal battles of others.

By counting your blessings daily, you can begin to condition your mind to look for the good in everything around you. Soon enough, you’ll unconsciously begin to see the bright side of things and feel better about life.

Too many of us direct our energy towards our fears. I’m not saying your problems don’t exist, but try instead to focus your energy on solutions to those problems. The Universe is abundant in all areas; the illusion of fear is the only limitation we have.

A lot of the beliefs we have are based on exaggeration, misconception and opinions imposed on us by other people.

bring up a past experience that made you unhappy, and ask yourself direct questions that help you to get to the heart of the matter. It’s important to realize that we create our own sadness by attaching negative conclusions to these past experiences in our subconscious mind. Here we must challenge these conclusions, which are stored as lessons. Failing to correct the negative lessons means they’re replayed in your subconscious mind. Over time, these lessons on repeat can weigh you down and induce depression.

Every second you spend thinking about the next moment, you avoid embracing the present. Ensure your life isn’t lived entirely in your head.

When you think about it, the present is still the future, disguised as now. Ten years ago you may have considered the future to be this exact point in your life. The future is today.

The future we’re constantly waiting for arrives only as the present. Once it arrives, it passes by so quickly we don’t even notice. We quickly switch our attention to anticipating the next moment, and then the next, and on and on.

Technology is a tool, not a substitute for living.

Meditation eases the resistance that your ego creates. This brings a sense of calm, clarity and enhanced patience.

If I feel that I’m right, yet someone else feels that I’m wrong, who’s right?

I always tell people to trust their instinct, because that’s their soul whispering advice to them. You’ll know it’s your gut when you have a sense of almost knowing you’ve arrived at the answer without a reasoning process.

Intuition is a calm feeling and gives you a reassuring sense of detachment.

Simplify your circle of friends. Keep those who add value to your life; remove those who don’t. Less is always more when your less means more.

Some friends want you to do well, but not too well. It’s important that we don’t settle for these mediocre friendships either, as they’ll fill our lives with negative energy.

We evolve past things that don’t contribute to our joy and wellbeing.

Most people have believed the things they do for many years. You can’t expect them to drop their beliefs in an instant because of how you perceive the world. If you feel that they’re being held back by their beliefs, you can offer an alternative perspective, but you can’t force your beliefs on someone else.

It’s okay to move on from people who aren’t giving you back the same energy.

If my emotional state isn’t high enough to start with, I know that by trying to help someone who’s feeling low, I may suffer a profound emotional impact.

Some people will just not receive your energy well. Make peace with that and keep on moving towards your joy.

Only if you stayed alone in your house all day and no one saw you, spoke to you or knew of your existence, would no one show hatred towards you. You acquire haters by being a somebody.

Remind yourself that negativity from others is unavoidable. With our constant exposure to the rest of the world, and our interactions with it, we’re bound to face some people who have a low vibration and act unkindly towards us.

the best defence is silence and joy.

When someone attempts to make you feel inadequate, it’s because they feel inadequate themselves. Understanding this will help you to handle related situations more effectively.

If you keep trying to satisfy others, you’ll never keep up. In the end, you’ll satisfy neither them nor yourself.

We’ll never be able to satisfy absolutely everyone, and that’s exactly why we shouldn’t even try. Give up the habit of being a people-pleaser and start pleasing you!

Constructive opinions can be very beneficial to our growth, but destructive ones that demoralize us don’t have a positive purpose. Abuse and criticism disguised as ‘feedback’ doesn’t deserve your attention.

The further you are emotionally from another person, the less real you appear to them.

but the longer you stay in harmful conditions, the more you sabotage your own life.

Encourage positive self-talk – and become your own support system. Your needs matter, so start meeting them yourself. Don’t rely on others.

we’re conditioned to care more about what others think of us than what we think of ourselves.

Learning to interact effectively with other people and getting them to like you will help you to achieve your goals. But there’s a deeper issue that must be addressed first: Do you like yourself?

Never allow society’s ideals for physical beauty to devalue your existence.

When we compare, we always look at those who we perceive to be doing better than us; rarely do we look at those who are facing bigger struggles than us. So we never feel grateful for what we do have.

Be proud of yourself. You’ve fought hard to get where you are today.