Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness

by Vex King

shifting blame. We’re quick to point out what’s wrong with someone else so that we can avoid taking responsibility for our own actions.

Acknowledging and understanding someone’s pain not only allows you to learn about them, but also helps you to grow.

Create a relationship where you talk to each other about your problems, not where you talk about each other on social media. Statuses don’t fix relationship issues, honest conversations do.

Sometimes in relationships, one partner will punish the other because of their own insecurities. They make the other feel like they have flaws, just to cover up their own limitations and to achieve a sense of superiority or authority. These relationships are often very unhealthy and toxic.

Unhealthy relationships drain all the goodness out of us.

The right partner won’t complete you. You’re already whole. Instead, the right partner will extend you. They’ll catalyse your growth and the expansion of your consciousness. It’s like finding love in someone who encourages you to find the love in yourself, which you keep giving back.

You can’t change those who aren’t ready to change.

Simplify your circle of friends. Keep those who add value to your life; remove those who don’t. Less is always more when your less means more.

Notice the people who celebrate your achievements, wish you a happy birthday, get excited about your goals and encourage you to do better without losing your sense of self. Those are the people worth keeping around.

Some friends want you to do well, but not too well. It’s important that we don’t settle for these mediocre friendships either, as they’ll fill our lives with negative energy.

It’s okay to move on from people who aren’t giving you back the same energy. Whether they’re friends, family or lovers, don’t be afraid to let go of relationships that no longer serve a purpose in your life. Dead weight will weigh you down and feel exhausting to carry around.

Before you try to fix someone else’s vibe, make sure you’re not killing your own in the process. Protect your own energy first.

Not everyone is going to get you, accept you or even try to understand you. Some people will just not receive your energy well. Make peace with that and keep on moving towards your joy.

Unfortunately, people who are vibrating at a low frequency often want to drag others down to their level.

Give up the habit of being a people-pleaser and start pleasing you!

Constructive opinions can be very beneficial to our growth, but destructive ones that demoralize us don’t have a positive purpose. Abuse and criticism disguised as ‘feedback’ doesn’t deserve your attention.

Believe it or not, your purpose is not to be in a job you dislike for the rest of your life.

You won’t be important to other people all the time, and that’s why you have to be important to yourself. Learn to enjoy your own company. Take care of yourself. Encourage positive self-talk – and become your own support system. Your needs matter, so start meeting them yourself. Don’t rely on others.

The size of your jeans doesn’t define you. The colour and shade of your skin doesn’t define you. That number on the scales doesn’t define you. Those marks on your face don’t define you. Those expectations don’t define you. Those opinions don’t define you.