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by
Vex King
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January 2 - January 7, 2024
Change the way you think, feel, speak and act, and you begin to change your world.
By loving yourself, you’ll live a life you love.
Stay clear of gossip and drama Drama is for TV, not for real life. Don’t play a part in someone else’s episode in which they’re the only star.
Avoid drama. Walk away in silence from anything that doesn’t improve your life. Calmness among chaos is a sign of emotional maturity.
When you’re upset because someone doesn’t like you, it’s your ego operating: you validate your existence based on their approval. When they disapprove of you, you no longer feel good about who you are. Our ego always wants to feel significant and adored. It seeksinstant gratification. It wants to feel more powerful than other people.
Express gratitude Before you complain about school, remember that some people can’t even get an education. Before you complain about getting fat, remember that some people don’t even have any food.
Before you complain about your job, remember that some people don’t even have any money. Before you complain about cleaning the house, remember that some people don’t even have any shelter. Before you complain about washing the dishes, remember that some people don’t even have any water. Before you complain about all these things on social media using your smartphone, without any consideration of how blessed you are, just be thankful for a minute.
The more you count your blessings, the more blessings you’ll have to count.
Study your emotions Ignoring negative emotions is like keeping poison in your system. Learn to understand everything that you feel. The aim isn’t to force positive thoughts, but to transform the negative ones into something healthier, so you can feel better.
Awareness of the present Every second you spend thinking about the next moment, you avoid embracing the present. Ensure your life isn’t lived entirely in your head.
We make life all about a future that exists only in our imagination and completely miss what’s happening in front of us.
It’s not selfish or a sign of weakness to distance yourself or walk away from those who constantly bring down your vibe. Life is about balance. It’s about spreading kindness, but it’s also about not letting anyone take that kindness away from you.
The right partner won’t complete you. You’re already whole. Instead, the right partner will extend you. They’ll catalyse your growth and the expansion of your consciousness. It’s like finding love in someone who encourages you to find the love in yourself, which you keep giving back.
Simplify your circle of friends. Keep those who add value to your life; remove those who don’t. Less is always more when your less means more.
Notice the people who celebrate your achievements, wish you a happy birthday, get excited about your goals and encourage you to do better without losing your sense of self. Those are the people worth keeping around.
You won’t be important to other people all the time, and that’s why you have to be important to yourself. Learn to enjoy your own company. Take care of yourself. Encourage positive self-talk – and become your own support system. Your needs matter, so start meeting them yourself. Don’t rely on others.
Someone once posed the question: If I asked you to name all the things you love, how long would it take for you to name yourself?
Ignore what everyone else is doing. Your life isn’t about everyone else; it’s about you. Instead of focusing on their path, pay attention to your own. That’s where your journey is taking place.
It’s about you. Your competition is you. Outdoing yourself is your daily task, and that’s where your comparison should be directed: on the person you were yesterday. If you want to be the greatest version of yourself, you have to keep the focus on your own life and goals.
We assume success is about being famous, rich and owning expensive things. But if you’ve pulled yourself out of a dark place, that’s a great success in itself. Don’t forget that you’re winning each day you don’t give up and you make it through to the next.
Forgive yourself for the bad decisions you’ve made, or the times you lacked belief, for the times you hurt others and yourself. Forgive yourself for all the mistakes you’ve made. What matters most is that you’re willing to move forward with a better mindset.
The truth is that ‘You in the Past’ was probably completely different from who you are now. So if someone judges you for your past, it’s their problem. They’re the ones who are living in a place that no longer exists.
Lack of time isn’t an excuse. If you can’t make the time for something, it’s not a high enough priority for you. If something is important to you, you’ll make the time for it.
You don’t need it all figured out. The more you think you do, the more you’ll procrastinate and fear moving forward. Have courage and start now, even if you start small. Just go for it!
remember that rejections are just redirections to better things. Setbacks are pauses for thought, opportunities to alter your plans – for the better.
Send that text. Go on that date. Make that move. Apply for that job. Start that business. Don’t be afraid of rejection, struggle or failure. There’s no shame in trying. Love, learn and grow through every risk you take towards fulfilment.
The past can’t be changed; only our perception of it can. By creating this shift in mindset, we start to trust that everything that happens to us also happens for us.
Happiness doesn’t come from other people, from places or things. It comes from within.
Money, for example, is frequently linked to happiness and even success. But you’ll learn from the richest people in the world that even with lots of money you can still experience sadness. If money was used to measure happiness and success, at what point would the scale begin and end? After all, numbers never end. You can easily want more and more, even once you identify your target. So you can’t use it as a tool for measurement.
