Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness

by Vex King

Avoid drama. Walk away in silence from anything that doesn’t improve your life. Calmness among chaos is a sign of emotional maturity.

What you consume consumes you; what consumes you controls your life.

The more you count your blessings, the more blessings you’ll have to count.

Ignoring negative emotions is like keeping poison in your system. Learn to understand everything that you feel. The aim isn’t to force positive thoughts, but to transform the negative ones into something healthier, so you can feel better.

We hold our phones more than we hold real conversations, and each other. We’re so busy looking down at screens and engaging in digital interactions that we forget about the environment around us.

We make life all about a future that exists only in our imagination and completely miss what’s happening in front of us.

Everything and anything done in a state of conscious awareness can be meditation – even the washing-up.

It’s not selfish or a sign of weakness to distance yourself or walk away from those who constantly bring down your vibe. Life is about balance. It’s about spreading kindness, but it’s also about not letting anyone take that kindness away from you.

All relationships require work. They require endless communication and tremendous understanding, and they can be very challenging. But while giving up isn’t always the answer, sometimes you have to walk away, especially when you lose your sense of self.

Unhealthy relationships drain all the goodness out of us. We give everything to someone who just won’t match our efforts and willingness to try. We empty our love bank to make them feel wealthier, while we become broke. We give ourselves up to someone who doesn’t respect us enough to treat us well in return.

Simplify your circle of friends. Keep those who add value to your life; remove those who don’t. Less is always more when your less means more.

Notice the people who celebrate your achievements, wish you a happy birthday, get excited about your goals and encourage you to do better without losing your sense of self. Those are the people worth keeping around.

Dip yourself into a pool of self-love and you’ll never drown from other people’s judgements about you.

The size of your jeans doesn’t define you. The colour and shade of your skin doesn’t define you. That number on the scales doesn’t define you. Those marks on your face don’t define you. Those expectations don’t define you. Those opinions don’t define you.

They will call you quiet because you’re perfectly happy in silence. They will call you weak because you avoid conflict and drama. They will call you obsessed for being passionate about the things you love. They will call you rude for not engaging in social pleasantries. They will call you arrogant for having self-respect. They will call you boring for not being extrovert. They will call you wrong for having different beliefs. They will call you shy when you choose not to interact in small talk. They will call you weird because you choose not to conform to societal trends. They will call you fake for trying your best to remain positive. They will call you a loner because you’re comfortable being on your own. They will call you lost for not following the same route as others. They will call you a geek for being a knowledge-seeker. They will call you ugly for not looking like celebrities. They will call you dumb for not being an academic. They will call you crazy for thinking differently from others. They will call you cheap for knowing value for money. They will call you disloyal for distancing yourself from negative people.

‘The Universe is not outside you. Look inside yourself; everything that you want, you already are.’

Use your intuition to guide you. If something feels wrong, it usually is!

You don’t need it all figured out. The more you think you do, the more you’ll procrastinate and fear moving forward. Have courage and start now, even if you start small. Just go for it!

The damage is divine. There’s substance to your scars. There’s wisdom in your wounds. There’s purpose behind your pain.

Life conditions you. It swings at you, it kicks you while you’re down and it stamps on you. And yet you survive and walk around as the new and improved version of yourself. Because the challenges that some people still find hard, you’ve overcome.

You came here loaded with potential, ability, gifts, wisdom, love and intelligence to share with the world. You’re here to make the world a better place. You have a purpose, and until you start living it you’ll have a void inside you; a feeling you can’t quite explain, but that knows you’re meant for more.