Your mind may also suggest hideous ideas to you, such as your partner finding them attractive because their nose is perfect. You may then take your pain out on your partner, accusing them of flirting, even if it was completely innocent. You’ll project your insecurity onto them and imply that they’re malicious, they lack love and they’re disrespectful. This is emotional manipulation, where instead of taking responsibility for your own emotions, you take them out on someone else.