Good Vibes, Good Life: How Self-Love Is the Key to Unlocking Your Greatness

by Vex King

But true self-love is when you appreciate where you are and who you are, regardless of any transformation you aspire to.

self-love is empowerment and liberation.

make a commitment to build meaningful and lasting relationships with positive people. When you spend more time with people who add value to your life and elevate your mood, you’ll begin to adopt their encouraging thinking patterns and reflect their vibrations back at them.

‘To be a great champion, you must believe you are the best. If you’re not, pretend you are.’

Calmness among chaos is a sign of emotional maturity.

Our ego always wants to feel significant and adored. It seeksinstant gratification. It wants to feel more powerful than other people.

try to keep an open mind and to listen to other people’s perspectives. However, I’ve also learned not to waste time on people who have no interest in what I have to say, or why I say it. You must make sure that you don’t involuntarily take part in the internal battles of others.

What you consume consumes you; what consumes you controls your life.

Too much alcohol also creates false perception, which may lead you to behave in a way you normally wouldn’t – this can lead to bad choices that might be damaging to your life. Alcohol might provide a few moments of pleasure, but you must moderate how much of it you consume.

When practising gratitude, imagine how different your life would be without that particular thing you’re showing thanks for. It’ll produce strong feelings and emotions. And this is how you can get into a powerful state of gratitude. Remember, there might be many things in your world that are going wrong. Yet there are also many things that are going right. The more you count your blessings, the more blessings you’ll have to count. Here’s a short story. During my time working in an office,

The Universe is abundant in all areas; the illusion of fear is the only limitation we have.

Ignoring negative emotions is like keeping poison in your system. Learn to understand everything that you feel. The aim isn’t to force positive thoughts, but to transform the negative ones into something healthier, so you can feel better.

introspection is so important to personal development.

Failing to correct the negative lessons means they’re replayed in your subconscious mind. Over time, these lessons on repeat can weigh you down and induce depression.

Repetition is the key to mastery. If you rehearse over and over again a situation in which you deal with the emotion, you’ll know exactly how to manage it next time it comes up in your life.

We relive moments of the past, fear the future and create obstacles in our minds. We devote creative energy to destructive ideas – and this invites turmoil into our lives.

Tomorrow comes disguised as today and some of us don’t even notice.

You may create a visual memory that you can retrace, but physically you can’t experience it again.

We wake up to get through the day and then go back to sleep. We do this 365 times a year. We wait for success, love, happiness to show up, never really aware of what we have in the present moment. Eventually, we realize that we’ve never really lived.

We make life all about a future that exists only in our imagination and completely miss what’s happening in front of us.

Technology is a tool, not a substitute for living.

Meditation eases the resistance that your ego creates. This brings a sense of calm, clarity and enhanced patience.

meditation is really concentration. Meditation helps you to arrive at conscious awareness of the present moment – and that’s a powerful tool to use in every part of your life.

Everything and anything done in a state of conscious awareness can be meditation – even the washing-up.

Always review your behaviours and make an effort to change any that are toxic – towards yourself or others. This isn’t only how you grow, it’s also an act of self-love. You’re showing yourself that you deserve better than the behaviours limiting your progress.

If I feel that I’m right, yet someone else feels that I’m wrong, who’s right?

But while giving up isn’t always the answer, sometimes you have to walk away, especially when you lose your sense of self.

The right partner won’t complete you. You’re already whole. Instead, the right partner will extend you. They’ll catalyse your growth and the expansion of your consciousness. It’s like finding love in someone who encourages you to find the love in yourself, which you keep giving back.

We grow up believing what we’re told and the others’ perceptions become our reality. Our whole lives are shaped by throwaway comments and social programming.

Notice the people who celebrate your achievements, wish you a happy birthday, get excited about your goals and encourage you to do better without losing your sense of self. Those are the people worth keeping around.

You must always focus on your own life, expanding it and growing as an individual. You can only do great things for others in the world if you genuinely feel joyful, loving and accomplished. If the people around you choose different paths or aren’t quite where you are, that’s okay.

You can influence them and facilitate change, but you can’t make them change. And they’ll only decide to change when they have an incentive – such as a better life or a better relationship with you. If they don’t identify a problem with their way of being, they won’t be motivated to change.

And pretending someone’s harmful behaviour is okay is in itself harmful. If you need to cut someone off because of continued destructive behaviour, then do it with no regrets.

If my emotional state isn’t high enough to start with, I know that by trying to help someone who’s feeling low, I may suffer a profound emotional impact.

The wisest thing for you to do in this situation is to change your state by vibrating as high as you can. This is how you protect your own vibration. By doing this, you build the strength needed to help others.

Before you try to fix someone else’s vibe, make sure you’re not killing your own in the process. Protect your own energy first.

‘Nobody can hurt me without my permission.’

if you weren’t standing out from the rest, people would have no reason to hate.

By belittling us, they believe they won’t feel so little themselves. These people exist and they’ll show up on our path to a greater life. We mustn’t deny their existence, but we mustn’t react either. A reaction is exactly what they want to make us feel down and protect their ego.

People tend to feel drawn towards individuals who resemble them in some way. This is demonstrated by a neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) technique called mirroring, which shows that mimicking an individual’s behaviours encourages them to like you.

We can also assume the opposite to be true: people tend not to feel an affinity with individuals who are different from them. And someone different from you might think you come across as a bit strange or ‘out there’. Ultimately, they won’t understand you, or want to understand you, because your energy doesn’t match theirs.

So don’t allow the cruelty of others to define your future.

Dip yourself into a pool of self-love and you’ll never drown from other people’s judgements about you.

If you keep trying to satisfy others, you’ll never keep up. In the end, you’ll satisfy neither them nor yourself.

Constructive opinions can be very beneficial to our growth, but destructive ones that demoralize us don’t have a positive purpose. Abuse and criticism disguised as ‘feedback’ doesn’t deserve your attention.

When you recognize that you deserve better than the toxic situation you’re trapped in, be daring enough to move on. You don’t have to rush the process, but the longer you stay in harmful conditions, the more you sabotage your own life.

The power of love and kindness is enormous, and sharing it with others can transform the world. But we must also be kind and loving towards ourselves. Instead of trying to change who you are, start giving yourself permission to feel good. Transform your own world and you’ll hone the skills needed to change the world around you.

People tend to enjoy being around, and fall in love with, those who gracefully accept themselves. For this reason, self-love is a vital element in building strong relationships.

When you accept yourself as you are, you put emphasis on your own wellbeing and joy – and you’ll be content with the idea that not everyone will accept you as you are. You’ll know your worth, so you won’t care if others don’t recognize it. In fact, you’ll come to understand why they don’t recognize it: unfortunately, because most people don’t accept themselves, they search for flaws in others.

Never allow society’s ideals for physical beauty to devalue your existence. Nearly all those ideals are driven from insecurity and a desire to feel more confident – or to sell something. If you think about it, how many businesses would go out of business if you truly accepted yourself?