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Professional Catfish
What we put out into the universe comes back to us, but who can predict the amount of time it takes to make its return, or what form it will assume?
I realized the question for me was not why a person would pretend to be someone they are not, but, when our supposed truths are unmasked for lies, What do we do with all of that pain and lost hope?
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my wife, Katherine,
daughters, Olivia and Claire,
Katherine had stopped taking antidepressants during her pregnancy.
seventy-hour-a-week job as a bank executive into thirty hours a week, and then they laid me off.
She was jealous of relationships that existed outside of our marriage,
Katherine learned as a child that families fall apart, that she could be given up for adoption as a baby and placed into a family where at an early age, the father would die and a grieving mother would become the queen of frozen hearts,
I had fallen batshit, crazy, in love with Enzo.
Was it possible to be an unhappy father and still raise a happy child, or did shame make my love poison?
taking steroids.
You remind yourself that pain is weakness leaving the body, and you have so much weakness you need to be freed from.
Luann and I had been friends since grade school, and she always had a crush on me.
Her father worked for the clock company until he died when Katherine was five years old. Her birth mother had given her up for adoption so that she could have a two-parent family with a stay-at-home mother. But her adopted mother returned to work at the family business to support the fatherless family.
my older brother, Alex,
Did I have a problem with men, and what men was he referring to? My father? He left when I was twelve.
Christopher
Truth is power,
adoptive mother, June.
In her thirties, as a young mother, she became tattooed for the first time,
She would not participate in a religion that did not believe in equality,
Her mother married her birth father two years after giving Katherine up for adoption, and together, they had another child.
Clomid—
His drug of choice
my college roommate, Mike,
But I know, the hardest things to prepare for are sometimes the things that we already know.
younger brother Christopher,
I was in a constant race to catch up. He became engaged; I became engaged. He got married; I got married.
Without sadness, happiness cannot exist. On that day, Linda and Debra would cry for the Bill they could not rescue and for the one that they did.
older brother, Alex,
To forgive is to give up completely, a concept that is foreign to our society, one that is taught to win at all costs. And so, the act of forgiveness first requires an unlearning—an undoing.
It can be helpful to know and understand the motivation of the person who hurt you in order to forgive them, but it is not necessary, because forgiveness is a solitary act that requires only one participant.
Forgiveness is not given to help the one who hurt you, but to navigate through the pain in order to free yourself.
living the truth is a form of resistance and persistence.
We are all of us an assimilation, a collection of bits and pieces of everything and everyone we love.
