The fact is, someone is choosing to be with you. And the reasons we choose partners can be complex. Most of us aren’t just shopping for the biggest penis, or the biggest boobs, or the person who can make the best lasagna. So comparing yourself on just one point doesn’t really take in the whole picture. Try questions like these instead: “Can you tell me something you enjoy about our sex life?” Or “Can you tell me what your favorite thing is about being with me?” Be sure to preface questions like this by saying you’re feeling insecure, or that you’d like some reassurance.
