We can also get into lots of trouble assuming we know what a partner wants from a sexual or kinky encounter. We’re so prone to comparison that it’s easy to hear a partner’s stories of their past encounters and assume that’s what they want from us. But what if what they like about us is the very fact that we’re different? Launching into a kind of sex we assume they want can go sideways very quickly. It can blow past boundaries and even consent, and potentially reopen past traumas.
