‘There is a difference’, she says, ‘between victimisation and victimhood.’ All of us are likely to be victimised at some stage. We will suffer abuse, injury, ill fortune or failure. We live exposed to forces beyond our control. Victimisation comes from the outside. But victimhood comes from the inside. ‘No one can make you a victim but you.’ We develop a particular kind of mindset, ‘a way of thinking and being that is rigid, blaming, pessimistic, stuck in the past, unforgiving, punitive, and without healthy limits or boundaries’. We become ‘our own jailors’.
