This is not to criticise self-help. But, in the end, we each have to take responsibility for our lives. The decisions, the willpower, the stamina and resilience are up to us. But for most of us, it is other people who make the necessary difference to our lives, guiding us, inspiring us, lifting us and giving us hope. It is the quality of our relationships that more than anything gives us a sense of meaning and fulfilment.10 Most important of all, it is the ability to love that lifts us beyond the self and its confines. Love is the supreme redemption of solitude.
