Meet Your Inside Team: How to Turn Internal Conflict into Clarity and Move Forward with Your Life

by Master Coach Cynthia Loy Darst

It’s a vulnerable act to be willing to notice the subtle ways that we belittle and shame ourselves, the stories that we concoct to distance ourselves from others, and the myriad of ways that we uncomfortably and painfully try to keep ourselves safe.

Notice that Bullies often communicate in a dramatic, all-or-nothing tone. That is a part of their power.

You are creative, resourceful, and whole. If a situation doesn’t work out the way you hope it will, I bet that you could figure out a new way forward without much of a problem.

Joanne loves planning things—trips, galas, dinner parties. She loves dreaming about the event and how it’s all going to come together.

Allison 🤔😜

Here’s what happens for Joanne: The Planner is pissed off because his hands are tied. The Researcher feels discounted because of all the work she’s done. The Dreamer is disappointed that the dream can’t come together. Suddenly Joanne’s team is a gang, and they’re throwing a massive hissy fit:

I love how the are three different players here. I can't recall ever teasing this much detail out of a disappointment and attributing to different concerns/reasons. I have felt that level of exasperation when dealing with folks plenty of times.