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No matter what the technology, change always comes with fear, and advancement with pitfalls.
social media can make even a balanced and mentally well-adjusted person have severe moments of self-doubt and angst.
the standard social media feed is so focused on self-promotion that we can’t bear to look foolish in front of others.
it’s social media comparisons which are making women feel unhappiest.
On social media, comparison breeds envy at every corner. Instead of feeling grateful for what we have, we believe we need to be more, just to come up to scratch.
adolescents are eager for peer validation.
social media site is a “social-validation feedback loop…exploiting a vulnerability in human psychology”.
Ultimately if the pictures look better than we do in real life, then we can’t say we’re not complicit in creating these unrealistic standards that are damaging the way women feel about themselves.
It’s all about selective disclosure.
higher levels of envy lead to greater mental-health problems
Instead of diversity and originality, what the majority of people on social media appear to want is more of the same.
being identified as happy is one of social media’s ultimate status symbols.
our various online personas are all digital breadcrumbs of the same persona; different symptoms of our same core self.”
If you are able to face your insecurities and your lows and your struggles, face them head-on and not feel ashamed by them; that’s how you become stronger and more confident and truly start to find out who you are.”
but if maintaining a façade is coming at the expense of your mental health it’s time to re-address what you are posting.
Kindness, whether on- or offline, never goes out of fashion.
Confidence doesn’t come from the numbers on the scales, it comes from acceptance – and social media can make that hard to find, no matter what your size.”
people often compensate for low mood, feelings of failure and insecurity by consuming more.
But the truth is that we all need to fail sometimes, in order to learn that perfection isn’t the be all and end all and that the sky doesn’t fall in if you don’t ace every element of your life. Also failure doesn’t necessarily lead to failure.
Solitude is where you find yourself... If we’re not able to be alone, we’re going to be lonelier,” says Sherry Turkle in her TED Talk,
Happiness and success aren’t one straight line or a ladder of equally spaced rungs. It’s a topsy-turvy, unpredictable journey of highs and lows.
Feeling anxiety about going off course is entirely misplaced because there is no course.
the human brain can only manage a finite number of relationships, somewhere around the 150 mark.
Hiding behind a screen makes us regress in our levels of emotional and social intelligence.
she told me that, “the body has no memory for pain”, something which seems impossible to believe when you’re in the depths of despair, but is one of the most useful and accurate pieces of counsel I’ve ever been given.
It’s our public and constant access to things which were once private that can set the green-eyed monster into overdrive.
A loss is not something you just get over, it’s a process.
over the past months I’ve realized that all women carry that feeling of guilt and inadequacy inside them to some extent, no matter what they do.”
our brains prefer novelty over the mundane same-same, which is why distractions are so damn attractive.
multitasking with electronic media caused a greater decrease in IQ than smoking marijuana or losing a night’s sleep.
Working on ourselves is perhaps the biggest task that most of us will face in the pursuit of happiness
remember, if you marry only for money, you’ll be paying for the rest of your life.
Be less floodlight, more spotlight.
As soon as you’ve settled on your goal, the next step is to anchor your efforts on a single, definable objective.
The dawn of the mass monetization of both our lives
life is a patchwork of love and that oversharing is caring.
