No one has ever talked to me about sex like this before. I’ve had boys ask if it’s okay to move forward, if it’s okay to do more, but forward and more always meant some vague notion of everything, like if you’re agreeing to sex, then of course you’d also do oral and everything else in between. Like the only real boundary is between everything else and intercourse, and after intercourse, even that boundary goes away. It’s the first time I’ve thought about sex the way Ben describes it, as an array of things I can pick or not pick, and the freedom it allows me is almost giddying.
