In many ways, we tell people that our family members are allowed to do anything they want to us because we are theirs and they are ours forever. Self-help books often tell us “they did the best they could,” and to forgive them and let it go. That if you’re still hurt or if you dare to speak the truth of what happened, you’re blaming someone else for your problems. Be an adult, move on, grow up. It is not true.
