There is adaptation for parents individually, and adaptation together. How does this baby fit into the plans I have for myself, for my career, for my leisure time? And how does it fit into our marriage? For the most part, data and evidence will probably not help with these transitions, as they are different for everyone. The goal of this part of the book is not so much to tell you what to do (indeed, I will have no advice at all), but rather to acknowledge that we should be talking about what works for the family, not just what works for the baby.
