the hooks of commitment are set. Now you’ll do what needs to be done. At this point you just let go of the wheel. You stop asking, What do I want? and start asking, What is life asking of me? You respond. “A person’s life can be meaningful only if she cares fairly deeply about some things, only if she is gripped, excited, interested, engaged,” writes the philosopher Susan Wolf. Notice the verbs Wolf uses: “gripped,” “excited,” “engaged.” They describe response at some deep level, not a self-initiated conscious choice. These are the verbs our community builders use.
