People talk about “settling down.” But, in fact, marriage is a hopeful revolution two people undertake together, without any real idea of what’s on the other side. It involves a set of far-reaching personal reforms, so that you might become the sort of person with whom it is possible to live. It is a dangerous thing not to be aware of the crisis-like nature of marriage, Mason continues. “Whether it turns out to be a healthy, challenging, and constructive crisis or a disastrous nightmare, depends largely upon how willing the partners are to be changed.”
