Grief in places where the conflict is ongoing, Kathryn believes, is messy, without a straight line forward, without a map. “The way that people deal with that loss can vary dramatically,” Kathryn told me. “Some want vengeance, some want accountability. Others feel like even with that that won’t accomplish anything, so they become activists. And some want to pretend it never happened.” Elisabeth Kübler-Ross wrote that grief takes place in five stages: denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance. Come to Chicago. I dare you to find those stages. I dare you to chart grief. Someone dies
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