Just as we seek confirmation that our message has been received by having the other person repeat it back to us, we can use the same strategy to turn the tide of a heated debate. To do this, philosopher Daniel C. Dennett advises, “you should attempt to re-express your target’s position so clearly, vividly, and fairly that your target says, ‘Thanks, I wish I’d thought of putting it that way.’” Dennett suggests then stating any points of agreement and anything you have learned from the other person.
