Parent Yourself Again: Love Yourself the Way You Have Always Wanted to Be Loved (Self-Compassion Book 3)

by Yong Kang Chan

To maintain inner peace, it’s important to reconcile these two different perspectives. You can’t force or push either of them aside. Otherwise, one of them will be unhappy. This is what your true self, the spiritual self, the source of love, is here to do — observe both sides and be the neutral party. I would probably still pick up the part-time job at my ex-company, but I would have at least stopped and listened to my inner child’s point of view and understand how “he” feels. It’s not enough to just heal the inner child. Our inner parent has to change, too. It needs to learn how to properly protect and nurture the inner child and take care of the inner child’s needs. When our inner parent fails to perform its responsibilities, our inner child will continue to be exposed to events that trigger hurt feelings, and we will end up acting unconsciously because of these feelings, just like a child.