Only your parents can help you fully understand their intentions. But if they are not around anymore, or if you are on bad terms with them and it’s hard to talk with them, the next best alternative would be to talk to your siblings and relatives. Even though their perceptions might also be skewed, at least you will be able to get another perspective rather than be fixated on your own. No matter what the event, you and your siblings might have interpreted it very differently.
