Parent Yourself Again: Love Yourself the Way You Have Always Wanted to Be Loved (Self-Compassion Book 3)

by Yong Kang Chan

Just like our parents, our inner parent knows or thinks it knows what is good for us, but often the inner child sabotages our efforts secretly when its needs are not met or acknowledged, and its pain and suffering are not dealt with. Knowing that the inner parent will not approve of their actions, the inner child acts discreetly through our subconscious without being caught by the inner parent. This is exactly how young children evade punishment when getting their desires met. They do it when the parents are not noticing. Once in a while, we might experience an unusual outburst of anger, and we are shocked by it. We love someone and we know the person loves us, but somehow we feel that we can’t commit to the relationship or trust the person. We procrastinate and resist doing whatever is expected of us, but we don’t understand why we feel so unmotivated. Even a simple task that we know we are capable of completing can cause us to feel unreasonably anxious and fearful. If this is happening in your life, you might want to examine whether your inner child is secretly working in the background to sabotage your efforts. It doesn’t need to be in the seat of your consciousness to get what it wants.