My Thoughts Exactly

by Allen Lily

Of course, I now know that a guy wanting to fuck you is not the same as him wanting you. Quite often he’ll fuck you even if he doesn’t want you, just because he can. He’ll fuck you if he fancies you and he’ll fuck you if he doesn’t. In fact, he’ll fuck you while he’s in the process of rejecting you. A guy will sometimes beg to fuck you, not because he wants to fuck you that badly but because knocking down the wall you’ve put up is a turn on for him. Or maybe it’s not the act of conquest that turns him on, but in a twisted version of S&M, he likes feeling humiliated by your attempts at rejecting him. Or maybe he likes witnessing your humiliation. Who fucking knows.

That’s why the only important thing is to know what you want as a woman and a human and a sexual person. You may not get it, and you may be overridden, but knowing what you want and making sure you try and assert that, means that at least you start from a place of power and strength.