But for guys who could be genuinely interested in you, defensiveness and bravado that conceal larger insecurities add up to a major red flag. These things say, “I may pretend not to care about what you think, but I actually care a lot. I want to explain myself, but I shouldn’t have to explain myself.” You’re wearing a sign that says, “HERE’S WHO I AM, GODDAMN IT. LOVE ME OR SCREW YOU,” and handing out cards that say, “How would you rate me on a scale of 1 to 10, where 10 means ‘strongly approve’ and 1 means ‘Get out of my face,
the first of many personal attacks on me specifically
