The Hidden Power of F*cking Up

by Keith Habersberger

There are many readers who could probably relate to this type of defeat: one that starts and ends entirely within your own hypercritical mind.

You can’t snack on junk food if you don’t buy junk food.

“Quitting something you’re bad at only makes you less of a waste of time, so don’t be ashamed.”

I decided that there was no benefit in treating my new role as if I had failed (even though I thought I had),

You’re going to have to clean up after one another. Accept that. Don’t try to make it a competition, either. There will be times when it feels like you’re the only one doing laundry or dishes or taxes or oil changes or whatever. Suck it up.

If and when you see that your partner is upset, listen to them and ask if they want your help. Sometimes people just need to be upset and offering a solution isn’t . . . the solution.