DON'T FORGET YOUR CROWN: Self-Love has everything to do with it.

by Derrick Jaxn

this is where many women miss their blessings because they either adjust their standards for men down to match them in their brokenness or miss out on men they really deserve because he realizes she hasn’t healed from her past enough to fulfill him in a healthy relationship.

The truth was, she had unconditionally loved me, in action form, and with every day that she did, she loved herself less because deep down she knew she deserved better than the things I’d begun doing. She allowed herself to tolerate so much of my disrespect for the relationship that it ate at her original identity and nestled its way in as a part of what she taught herself was normal. Without condition, she continued to love me and it cost her herself, and that’s when she became someone else.

When you’re protecting yourself from giving your heart to the wrong ones and mindful about what battles you fight regardless of which ones you’re invited to, people can’t toy with your happiness that you create without them, and you don’t hit rock bottom when they no longer contribute to it.

But too many times, narcissists can feign ignorance, play mind games, toy with emotions, deplete self-esteem, and burn out the hearts of those who love them because self-love was never applied before meeting them.

You can’t give a man too much to lose if he could never see what he had to begin with.

She has to make a decision to walk away from good that isn’t good enough, something most people struggle with until they’ve gotten fed up with being more than good enough while receiving less than in return.

Soul mates are two people who, even if divinely chosen for each other, consciously choose each other and the work it’s going to take to make a healthy relationship last every day, every argument, every opportunity that presents itself to go against the promise to not hurt each other, every temptation to just give up on the relationship, and every mistake that hurts the other, including the work to make it right. I learned this lesson firsthand from my soul mate.

there’s also a thin line between weathering a storm and weathering stupid.